Personal Vow Worksheet

Decide on the length & tone of your vows

  Do you want your vows to be funny, romantic, religious, or completely unique? Either way, we recommend that your vows last for one to two minutes

TIPS FOR FUNNY VOWS

Make sure you include things that family and friends know about, so they’re “in” on the jokes. This isn’t a stand-up routine or a roast, so keep it lighthearted.

TIPS FOR ROMANTIC VOWS

Include 1-3 personal, unique promises.
Avoid cliches, and don’t include anything too personal or romantic.

TIPS FOR SENTIMENTAL VOWS

Tell a couple anecdotes that showcase your love. Practice in front of a few friends a couple times to make sure you can keep it together.

Brainstorm

Read sample vows and poetry that you can borrow lines from. Incorporate song lyrics or movie quotes that are meaningful to your relationship. Collect personal sentiments by jotting down answers to the following questions:

TOP MEMORIES/MOMENTS TOGETHER
WHERE DID YOU MEET?
WHAT DREW YOU TO THEM?
HOW DO YOU COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER?
HOW DO THEY MAKE YOU BE/WANT TO BE A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF?
HOW DID YOU KNOW THEY WERE THE ONE?
WHAT DOES YOUR FUTURE LOOK LIKE TOGETHER?
WHAT DO YOU MISS MOST ABOUT THEM, WHEN THEY AREN’T AROUND?
THREE PROMISES YOU WANT TO MAKE TO THEM

Organizing Memorable Vows

  • ONE

    Begin with some background details on how you met or when you knew you were in love

  • TWO

    Declare Your Love. Tell your partner how much you love them, how they have changed your life, and why they are important to you.
    Use this time to talk about what makes your relationship unique.

  • THREE

    End with what you’re looking forward to most and promises for your future. Traditionally, this is when brides and grooms promise to “love, honor, and cherish” one another, but this is where you can get creative and include your own promises

Final tips before the big day

Edit and Rewrite
Write multiple drafts. Don’t expect perfection on the first draft, or even the fifth.
Give yourself plenty of time to write and edit your vows.

Practice
Read your vows out loud. Try practicing in front of close friends, family, or a mirror.
Once you perfect your delivery, you will be as confident as possible and ready for your big day.
When it’s time, look your partner in the eyes and speak from your heart.

Don’t Over-Think
Don’t put the pressure on yourself to try and ‘out do’ your partners vows, or even match them.
As long as you speak your hearts truth, you will nail your vows.

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